by Bob Doman You say nice things –I like you! You’re fun to be around! You think I’m good-you like me! I’ll be good for you and try hard! You just say ugly things to me! You think I’m bad and dumb—then I’ll be bad and dumb! Simple statements: The more positive you are with a child, the … Read More
Was That Right or Wrong? (And does it matter?) by Bob Doman Was that right or wrong? Did I do well or not? Was that important or not? Does getting it right matter, and if so how much? Should I care—do I care? Is it fun? Do I like this and want to do it again? Am I good at … Read More
You Like Things You Think You’re Good At by Bob Doman I’m good at reading! I love to read! I stink at reading—I hate it! I’m great at soccer! I really like playing soccer; let’s play some more! I’m lousy at soccer—I hate it, I quit! Simple statement: You like what you think you’re good at. The ramifications of this … Read More
by Ellen Doman I wrote a paper on this topic some decades ago for a graduate school paper. I entitled it, “Does Remediation Mean Failure?” and based it on quite a few definitive studies. Needless to say, those studies are long outdated and the paper, which was not very popular with my fellow educators, is no longer current. Sadly, though, … Read More